The Mis's
There are elements in relationships that can cause a rift between partners. Some of these elements can be the Mis's and that is not a misspelling. The Mis's are those things that can cause the biggest issues between couples and they are misunderstanding, miscommunication, misinterpretation.
Miscommunication can always come in various forms. one such way is if you and your partner are only communicating via text words don't always come out the way you expect them to. both sides can often misread what is trying to be said. You might find you missed an opportunity to say what you really feel or that what you were really trying to express was conveyed properly and before you could clarify words were said and tempers flared. If you let things end that way then that is how your partner will remember your feelings and not as how you were truly intending to express yourself.
Along with miscommunication is misinterpretation. The two can often go together because if you are miscommunicating then you and your partner are often misinterpreting what each is trying to say even if you are both making the same points. I myself have miscommunicated my feelings or thoughts and let things be interpreted in the wrong way. Then I basically let my self get in my own way and sabotage myself by doing something stupid again. To the point that instead of just agreeing with my partner right away because I know they are right, I treat it as if its no big deal or their concerns are not as valid even though I do what they ask because deep down I know its the right thing.
Misunderstanding like the others can lead someone to believe whats not true at all. I never wanted my girlfriend to believe that I was intentionally doing things on purpose or that I didn't Love her with all my heart. That I did't want to share even more of my feelings with her. But my feelings of not wanting to burden her or feel like I was overwhelming her leads to misunderstandings. You believe you may be doing something right when in fact you are not. something innocent because they love you can be misunderstood, misinterpreted, miscommunicated, the trifecta of the mis's. When you think and feel like you are doing the right thing because you haven't communicated or communicated poorly that it leaves them feeling less than important and you don't see it because of whats going on inside your own head you feel without a doubt that what you are trying to accomplish will right all the wrongs. The problem with that is you are unintentionally creating more wrongs even if you don't mean to be.
Misinformation can also come in and cause conflict with your partner. Such as someone at work feeding misinformation whether they think its funny because they don't like your boyfriend, or there is an associate who is jealous of your happiness that they feed you misinformation to plant seeds of mistrust. Now while some of that mistrust is misplaced there is also some of it that needn't be, not when you believe beyond any shadow of doubt that the person you are with loves you more than anything and would never want to see you in pain from anything. That they would never risk your trust in them over misinformation.
These are all barriers that can be easily broken down when both sides understand what each other is feeling. When you break down those barricades of mistrust, misunderstanding, disinformation then they can see the real you, the real loving, caring, wonderful you. And they are not just barriers set up by the other person, they can be barriers of your own that you have put in place to protect yourself. and these barriers can be put up because of many issues that you have dealt with. Re-open those lines of communication, listen and respond to each other with no animosity or prior judgement because of the past. If they are willing to show you how much they are changing than believe that change is possible. Believe that they see something in you that lasts forever. everyone loses their way and needs to be shown back to the path. Sometimes being misunderstood can allow someone to think something about you that isn't true. Its not always their fault that you are misunderstood especially if you are not showing them, then you are idling standing by allowing the damage to be done. And that once again is the issue of miscommuncating. You can't be afraid to share your feelings that is what it means to have a partner is to share your complete self with each other.
Miscommunication can always come in various forms. one such way is if you and your partner are only communicating via text words don't always come out the way you expect them to. both sides can often misread what is trying to be said. You might find you missed an opportunity to say what you really feel or that what you were really trying to express was conveyed properly and before you could clarify words were said and tempers flared. If you let things end that way then that is how your partner will remember your feelings and not as how you were truly intending to express yourself.
Along with miscommunication is misinterpretation. The two can often go together because if you are miscommunicating then you and your partner are often misinterpreting what each is trying to say even if you are both making the same points. I myself have miscommunicated my feelings or thoughts and let things be interpreted in the wrong way. Then I basically let my self get in my own way and sabotage myself by doing something stupid again. To the point that instead of just agreeing with my partner right away because I know they are right, I treat it as if its no big deal or their concerns are not as valid even though I do what they ask because deep down I know its the right thing.
Misunderstanding like the others can lead someone to believe whats not true at all. I never wanted my girlfriend to believe that I was intentionally doing things on purpose or that I didn't Love her with all my heart. That I did't want to share even more of my feelings with her. But my feelings of not wanting to burden her or feel like I was overwhelming her leads to misunderstandings. You believe you may be doing something right when in fact you are not. something innocent because they love you can be misunderstood, misinterpreted, miscommunicated, the trifecta of the mis's. When you think and feel like you are doing the right thing because you haven't communicated or communicated poorly that it leaves them feeling less than important and you don't see it because of whats going on inside your own head you feel without a doubt that what you are trying to accomplish will right all the wrongs. The problem with that is you are unintentionally creating more wrongs even if you don't mean to be.
Misinformation can also come in and cause conflict with your partner. Such as someone at work feeding misinformation whether they think its funny because they don't like your boyfriend, or there is an associate who is jealous of your happiness that they feed you misinformation to plant seeds of mistrust. Now while some of that mistrust is misplaced there is also some of it that needn't be, not when you believe beyond any shadow of doubt that the person you are with loves you more than anything and would never want to see you in pain from anything. That they would never risk your trust in them over misinformation.
These are all barriers that can be easily broken down when both sides understand what each other is feeling. When you break down those barricades of mistrust, misunderstanding, disinformation then they can see the real you, the real loving, caring, wonderful you. And they are not just barriers set up by the other person, they can be barriers of your own that you have put in place to protect yourself. and these barriers can be put up because of many issues that you have dealt with. Re-open those lines of communication, listen and respond to each other with no animosity or prior judgement because of the past. If they are willing to show you how much they are changing than believe that change is possible. Believe that they see something in you that lasts forever. everyone loses their way and needs to be shown back to the path. Sometimes being misunderstood can allow someone to think something about you that isn't true. Its not always their fault that you are misunderstood especially if you are not showing them, then you are idling standing by allowing the damage to be done. And that once again is the issue of miscommuncating. You can't be afraid to share your feelings that is what it means to have a partner is to share your complete self with each other.
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